#6 – It is OK to Grieve

A breakup generally hurts as much as the death of a loved one. You all know how it feels like to lose something or someone precious. It is a painful experience that can cause severe depression if not handled properly. Some people even think of committing suicide especially if it is their first time to experience a breakup. It is human nature to feel resentful. It is okay for you to grieve. It is also important that you understand the grieving process and try to lead a normal life when you are going through it. Do not get involved in destructive behavior just to get back at you ex. This will hurt and embarrass you more.

To sum up, the grieving process generally has 5 stages which include:

Denial

This is the phase where you do not believe that the relationship is over. You think with your heart and often tend to be irrational. You secretly hope that things could work out and even get tempted to call your ex.

Anger

This is the stage where you are angry with everyone and everything including yourself. You feel like the world is against you and even go to the extent of bad mouthing your ex and sending hateful messages.

Bargaining

In this stage, you tend to imagine that you can make the relationship work again. You talk to your ex and try convincing them that you will change. You even ask your friends or family to talk to him/her.

Depression

Depression manifests itself in several forms. Loss of appetite, trouble sleeping, drug abuse and feeling hopeless.

Acceptance

This is a phase which comes gradually until you are eventually able to accept your loss and make peace with yourself. Relapses may occur sometimes until you are eventually able to move on.