#4 – Make a Plan

Making a plan takes time and understanding of the abuser and his schedule.  It is important to know this so you can plan an appropriate safe time to leave the abusive situation.  While most battered women and men do not reach out for help it is vital that you let a trusted person in your life know the situation.  It is essential for your safety and your children’s to develop a plan for when you need help.  Develop code words that you can text a trusted friend, co-worker, family member, or neighbor if you are in danger.  You can also use visual signs such as a porch light on means no danger, but if the porch light is off you are in trouble.  Hide an extra set of keys, be prepared to sneak away at any safe moment, and back your car into the driveway.  It is important to keep your car fueled at all times and to keep all doors locked except drivers door for a quick escape.